演讲者：Nora McInerny

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　　We don't 'move on' from grief. We move forward with it

　　我们不背弃痛苦前进，而是带着痛苦前进

　　演讲正文来源：

　　https://www.ted.com/talks/nora_mcinerny_we_don_t_move_on_from_grief_we_move_forward_with_it

　　Part 1 – Miserable experience

　　【Transcript】

　　2014 was a big year for me. Do you ever have that, just like a big year, like a banner year? For me it went like this: October 3, I lost my second pregnancy. And then October 8, my dad died of cancer. And then on November 25, my husband Aaron died after three years with stage-four glioblastoma which is just a fancy word for brain cancer.

• a banner year 特别好的一年（这里面有讽刺意味）

• pregnancy 怀孕

• glioblastoma 恶性脑胶质瘤

• a fancy word 时髦的语言，花言巧语

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　　Par 2 – Reactions

　　【Transcript】

　　I’ve made it a career to talk about death and loss, nut just my own, because it’s pretty easy to recap, but the losses and tragedies that other people have experienced…I’ve written some very uplifting books, host a very uplifting podcast, I started a little non-profit. I’m just trying to do what I can to make more people comfortable with the uncomfortable, and grief is so uncomfortable. It’s so uncomfortable, especially if it’s someone else’s grief… It’s just a series of small groups, where men, women, gay, straight, married, partnered can talk about their dead person, and say the things that the other people in their lives aren’t ready or willing to hear yet. Huge range of conversations.

• recap 概括，回顾

• losses and tragedies 损失和悲剧

• uplifting 振奋人心的

• non-profit 非营利的

• make more people comfortable with the uncomfortable 让人们接受不舒服的东西

• grief 悲伤

• huge range of 大fanwei

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　　Part 3 – Reflection

　　【Transcript】

　　“Did you remember what people say to you” “Oh yeah” “Which ones did you hate the most?” I got a lot of comments, lot of answers, people say a lot of things, but two rose to the top pretty quickly. “Moving on.” … But by any measure, life is really, really good, but I haven’t “moved on” and I hate that phrase so much, and I understand why other people do. Because what it says, is that Aaron’s life and death are just moments that I can leave behind me ~ and that I probably should. And when I talk about Aaron I slip so easily into the present tense and I’ve always thought that made me weird. And then I noticed that everybody does it. And it’s not because we are in denial or because we’re forgetful, it’s because the people we love, who we’ve lost are still so present for us…He’s present in my marriage to Matthew, because Aaron’s life and love and death made me the person that Matthew wanted to marry. So I’ve not moved on from Aaron, I’ve moved forward with him.

• rose to the top 登顶

• move on 放下过去往前看

• moved forward with 一起前行

• leave behind 抛下，离开

• in denial 否认，拒绝

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　　后续内容请访问：

　　https://www.ted.com/talks/nora_mcinerny_we_don_t_move_on_from_grief_we_move_forward_with_it

　　无论我们生活中发生什么样的不幸，我们都不应该完全忘却这些痛苦。应该勇敢地接受它们，因为正是这些成就了我们自己。

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